• Is It Possible to Fall in Love With Someone You Have Only Met Online?
    is it possible to fall in love with someone you have only met online?



    How can two people be in love when their lips have never touched? Isn’t a kiss oftentimes the magic that helps you realize you’ve found true love? (or maybe this kiss makes you realize the opposite-that you aren’t in love.) And, can you really say you’re in love with a person whose hand you have never held or whose breath you have never breathed in?



    Some say "love is blind", but how many times have you pursued someone only because you thought they were beautiful or handsome? You didn't know anything else about them, so you imagined it.  You fell in love with your idea of them before you even knew who they were.  Maybe you spent some time together, made some small talk, saw a flick or two, jumped into bed with them, and then all of a sudden you decided you know them and you love them.  Ha!  What did you really know?  Then you got all  upset when they didn't turn out the way imagined them to be, so you fled, called them names, sobbed, drank, swore to never let it happen again, picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and eventually moved on to some other ridiculous pursuit.  I would imagine this formula works the same way whether you met that person online or in 'real life'.  When you fall in love you are living in a fantasy....



    We are all some sort of unsolved mystery.  Even after all the pink smoke clears and our flaws become so much more apparent, you still can't possibly know all there is to know.  We have secrets, skeletons in our closets yet to come out, and we can change and do the unexpected at any given moment....


    I miss you but I’ve never met you

     

    People generally get attracted to each other based on common ideas, common outlook towards life, common value systems, similar views on important issues. If you happen to know someone over the Internet, you can sometimes feel connected if your views match theirs. Also, you might like their sense of humor - that does come through no matter what the medium - speech or chat or text. So, face-to-face contact isn't as essential in knowing the other person. One can even argue that not having face-to-face contact can have certain advantages. You may not judge the other person for their physical looks per se, but may get in touch with them at a deeper emotional level.

     

    Consequently, I would think you could theoretically fall in love with someone you've never met in person. But, could such a love stand the test of time? Would such a love overcome the potentially high expectations generated by an online or virtual personality? Certain personality traits may not be visible or apparent in the online domain. Would such a love then be able to come to terms with the reality of physical imperfections or deficiencies?

     

    Assuming that a couple has met over the Internet or over the phone, the more interesting thing that I'd like to know would be - what would be their reaction when they do in fact meet in person for the first time. You may like their thoughts/views on various subjects and like the online person you've met, but what if the person turns out to be, well, not as attractive physically when you first meet them. Can you overlook that fact and love them the same way as you did before you met?

    Even though most people say (to be politically correct than anything else) that outward beauty doesn't matter to them, generally most people value beauty in a potential partner. So, while it is possible that you can fall in love with someone you've never met in person, it is not as possible to predict whether you would in fact remain in love with that person - once you've met them - especially if that person turns out to be not as attractive (based on your standards of attractiveness).

    Also, when you do in fact meet a person face-to-face, you may discover many things about him/her that you hadn't quite anticipated. Perhaps, he/she has some embarrassing habits that you hadn't quite anticipated -- or perhaps he/she has some irritating quality that wasn't apparent to you before through his/her online persona. So, while you can fall in love with someone you've never met, whether you stay in love with that person is quite another matter.

     

    There is also the potential problem of anonymity and people who mask their true identities online. You may have very good, honest, genuine intentions and want real love, but can you be really sure that the other person with whom you are chatting to or speaking with shares those intentions? For all you know, the other person may be twice the age he/she actually claims to be, he/she may be married and claim to be single, they may be showing you pictures of someone else but may claim that the person in the picture is in fact them. How can you be sure?

    The online world is a world of escape for some people and many just come online to live a world they can't live in the real world. So, they may just log in and claim to be someone who they are not, but you have no way of knowing that. To me, this is the biggest problem a person who connects with another person online faces.

    So, while you may fall in love with someone you've never met physically (and it is quite possible) - the more important question that you should be asking is if you truly have fallen in love with a real person - who exists in the real world - or an online mirage that's a figment of someone's imagination, someone who is just in it for the fun of it, maybe just to find someone to get physical with, someone who is not as serious about finding love as you are?

     

    A lot of heartbreak can be avoided if during the initial stages of a potential online relationship you insist on seeing the person you are chatting with on cam, rather than settle for pictures, which may be of anyone, not necessarily of the person who is chatting with you. Also, look out for avoidance behavior like committing to something that may expose their true identity and then backing out repeatedly. For example, if the person you are chatting to is repeatedly promising to meet you up or cam, and then avoiding it, there may be a strong possibility that they have something to hide, something they do not want you to find out about them. Maybe, that something is that they are not really who they've been projecting to you on chat.

    So, hope for the best, but expect the worst to save yourself some heartbreak. Online love does happen and has happened for many, but so have online heartbreaks and I certainly don't want you to join the ranks of the heartbroken ones.

     

    “From the very first moment I saw him, I knew he would be the man I would marry. Even the first time I saw his photo (we met online), I felt an instant connection that compelled me to spiritually propel to another consciousness and visualize meeting him, marrying him, having a child with him, and spending the rest of our lives together. That instantaneous visualization was both scary and exciting, making me realize that I finally found my way to the magical labyrinth that would start an entirely new journey for me to happily complete. That said, looking into his eyes on our first date sparked more exciting energy within me, as it confirmed the fact that my thoughts were indeed coming to fruition. It has been many years now since that romantic revelation. And soon, we will be celebrating another anniversary together, we have a beautiful young boy, and we are partners in several successful medical and wellness practices together. So was it love at first sight? Indeed... and our journey through that enchanted labyrinth has led us to a special garden where we have truly found elysium.”

     

    “First, it was his dimples. And his great smile. Then it was his green eyes. He was dressed in a suit and looked very professorial. The minute I met him, I sensed a warmth and physical attraction. We chatted at a party and he walked me to my car. It was cold outside. Then, he leaned in and kissed me through the window. A real kiss. That was it for me. I was hooked. We’ve been married 8 ½ years and have known each other for 10 years. I’ve been happy ever since. It’s mine and his second marriage, after having been divorced for many years. I certainly believe it was love at first sight. (At least for me!)”

     

    “Love at first sight happened to me, while I hung out with some girlfriends in Napa. We would go to our favorite spot every weekend to watch sports and the manager there would always talk to me. He had the bluest eyes, dimples that were to die for, and we had the best conversation. At that very moment, I know I was in trouble and I knew he was the one right then and there. It never failed — every time my friends and I would go into the bar, he would acknowledge me and give me a smile that I couldn't get out of my head. We flirted a lot and, a week later, he asked me out. The next day, we went out again in San Francisco. Nine days after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend and told me he loved me. Three months after that, we moved in together. We've been together for eight-and-a-half years, very much in love, and looking at finally taking the next step... marriage. I think the best part is that he says that he fell in love with me the first time we met, as well. Love at first sight exists for everyone. I think you just have to be open to the possibilities. I'm so glad I did.”

     

    Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.

    >The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.

     

     

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