Robberto 06/21/2023 08:30:31 Good afternoon, my beloved Rosine, the love of my life....

21.06.2023

06/21/2023 08:30:31

Good afternoon, my beloved Rosine, the love of my life. As children, we can’t possibly understand the dynamics in our relationships or the relationship ups and downs involved in them, and certainly not how to navigate through them. As we grow up, we become accustomed to the theme of a long-term relationship from a very naive lens. For most of us, creating a healthy relationship is a trial and error process or rather a learned art through the experience of all of our previous relationships. As you know, there are many kinds of relationships, and most will have peaks and valleys. But a perfect relationship is probably not a reality for most human beings. Such a thing as a Prince Charming climbing towers to help a Princess in distress or even a sleeping princess who can only awake from the tender kiss of her savior will forever be a fantasy. Nonetheless, we don’t learn about the realities behind these relationships or the relationship ups and downs: after all, perhaps the sleeping beauty was completely comfortable napping all these years. I think the key to a good and loving relationship is consciously recognizing the relationship stage, the ups and downs it appears to be, and then adjusting to it. Like anything else that is long-lasting in life, a relationship does not always end up running the way we want them to. The beginning of a relationship is always exciting because of where it might lead or how it may benefit us in the long run. Having a clear or core understanding of what real love is as opposed to something that appears to be love but is unreal is, well, imperative. However, different times, major life events, social pressures, family pressures, and changing personal beliefs are catalysts for change in our perspectives relating to one another. All of this proves that a committed relationship or maintaining our best relationship is hard work and requires a healthy communication style and a capacity to handle the roller coaster ride they all seem to be. And although we may be thinking, “mine and my partner’s relationship is different from everyone else!” it’s rare, as most relationships will go through many stages. First, we have the romance stage: we all know that one quite well! All is well; we are completely infatuated and can’t seem to keep our hands off our partner. They are quite literally the best person we have ever met. An then, we reach the power struggle stage: we start realizing that perhaps this person isn’t truly the best person we’ve ever met, but instead, they do have some downsides. We only see these and may feel anger and resentment while trying to revert this person to the one we remember being with. And yet, it’s not possible. This is where a relationship can reach the make-or-break factor: either we compromise and learn to love this person for who they are, or the relationship hits its end date. If we do make it, we then reach the stage of stability, where we feel comfortable and connected again. Then, at the commitment stage, we both, well, commit to one another in the long run! And finally, we have the co-creation or bliss stage, which is where we create a life together and live like one, so to speak. Of course, we are still our own person, but our lives becomes shared. Indeed, we all experience relationship ups and downs! But understanding why particular challenges emerge is critical and knowing when it’s time to think about ourselves first is even more crucial. So, we must pay attention to the little things, the ups, and downs, in our relationship. And it is always a good thing to try and think about our relationship with a clear mind as possible. We must become a good listener and hear what the other person may be saying and listen to what we are actually telling ourselves. We must be strong enough to accept the truth and move accordingly. As time passes, we can learn to spot the challenges and sources of these struggles and start figuring things out. I am very happy to have you in my life, my darling Rosine, because we will always be here for one another forever. I hope you have a wonderful day, my beloved wife.

Robert

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